Dedicated to Building the Best Society...

... and helping people become their best selves so they can win the biggest game -- LIFE!

Everyone can learn to do this if essential personal life skills are taught to all our children as a routine part of the curriculum starting in a quality preschool setting and continuing in grades K-12.

This website can help you understand what essential personal life skills are, why they are important, and why we believe they should be taught routinely to all children beginning in a quality preschool setting and continuing throughout primary and secondary schooling.

What We Do

Most people don’t know what essential personal life skills are, but they do recognize when there are problems that can result from a lack of these skills.  

Our main goal is to help all people, starting with children, to become their best selves so they can win the biggest game -- LIFE!  We believe this can be accomplished by teaching essential personal life skills in all schools starting from preschool through high school.  It is our firm belief that curriculum to teach these skills should be included for every grade level and that if it were, our children would be better prepared for life.   So, we continue to ask this question:

"Since parents want their children to ultimately get good jobs, and since employers want employees who have good essential personal  life skills, why are we not including curriculum to teach these skills in all our schools?"

Toward this end, here are the three primary things that SELF does:


1. We ADVOCATE for quality early learning for all children from birth to 5 years, which is when they begin to learn essential personal life skills. This is the foundation of a person's life, and every child must start to learn these skills to become their best selves.
In order to see this happen, we advocate for our government to cut the wasteful spending, especially on programs that do not help Americans, and instead use our tax dollars to create a better society by investing in families and children, providing funding for quality early learning for all children in the U.S., which is administered by each state, RUN BY THE PRIVATE SECTOR, and which is measured, monitored, and rated by a third party to assure excellence.

We also advocate for essential personal life skills curriculum to be mandated as a stand-alone subject in all schools for K-12th grades so that students continue to learn these skills.

Just like reading and writing, the more our students learn about essential personal life skills and how to apply them, the more successful they will be in every area of their lives.

2. We EDUCATE through the content of our website, which includes simple sayings and tips, as well as through our free Alive2Thrive curriculum, which teaches about essential personal life skills and how to apply these skills to your life.

3. We INVEST in families in our community by offering our Hand-Up Tuition Assistance program to help hard-working parents of preschoolers if they are not receiving government assistance by offsetting a portion of their tuition at quality early learning centers we work with.

If you do not have essential personal life skills, the chart below shows some problems you may experience in your life as a result.

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Domestic violence Broken families, emotional instability, physical trauma, fear, medical expenses x x
Bullying others Social and school problems X x x
Racism Stress & other health concerns, discrimination x x x
Depression/anxiety Poor relationships, job loss, family dysfunction x x x x
Suicide Family trauma, stress for loved ones x x x x
Drug or alcohol dependence/abuse Poor health, job loss, family trauma, legal troubles x x x
Eating disorder(s) (anorexia, bulimia, etc.) Poor health, emotional instability x
Poor job performance Unable to advance, poor pay, job dissatisfaction x
Marital/family issues Divorce, disharmony, dysfunctional family dynamics x x x x
Low self-esteem Risky behaviors, poor judgment, lack of motivation x x
Incarceration Family trauma, relationships suffer, future job potential decreases x x x x
Anger Arrest, incarceration, bad relationships x x
Fear Family & work relationships suffer, stress x x
Debt Bad credit, homelessness, stress x x x
Poverty/homelessness Stress, financial ruin x x x
Poor health/self-care Medical problems, relationships suffer x x
Obesity Health problems, hygiene issues, social anxiety x x
Guilt, shame, self-blame Lack of motivation, depression, anxiety x x
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Santoro Education Lifeskills Foundation (SELF)

If learning academic subjects is like the car that drives you, then essential personal life skills are like the steering wheel that guides you.   You can’t drive a car without a steering wheel, right?

SELF is dedicated to helping everyone learn important lessons about health, self-character, and relationships with others as early in life as possible. We believe that through learning essential personal life skills as early as preschool and continuing from grades K-12, people will have foundational life skills to help in ALL areas of life. 

We can use your help

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How to Use This Site

This website is a free common-sense approach to help ALL people become their best selves and win the biggest game: LIFE.

We advocate for and provide a simple means of avoiding or treating some life issues that stem from the lack of essential  personal life skills, and the journey starts with the first step.

Please click on the PROGRAMS page shown at the top of this and all other pages for a peek at all of the free resources this site offers, which range from a full curriculum program called Alive2Thrive to individual short “sayings.”

This site is not intended as a replacement for professional medical care for physical or mental health problems, which should be addressed by a licensed professional.