Learning Objective: Through this lesson you will learn about how fear and pride can influence your behavior and have consequences on your relationships. The lesson will explore some of the common causes for why we lose friends and how you might overcome pride and fear to reconnect.
Relating to Others
RELATING TO OTHERS, the final module of video lessons, at its core seeks to make you ready to build stronger friendships, as well as meet the needs of others.
Some of the things you will learn in this module include;
- How to respond when others make mistakes
- How to work with and convince others to get what you want instead of forcing them to get what you want
- Some of the common causes as to why we lose friends and how you might overcome pride and fear to reconnect with them
- What it means to be of service to others and what that sacrifice can produce
- And finally, a review of the four modules of the Alive2Thrive curriculum.
We invite you to preview the RELATING TO OTHERS module with unrestricted access to video #29, “Force vs. Power,” shown below. For FREE unrestricted access to all of our videos, please register with our site..
Video Lessons
29- Using Force vs. Power
Learning Objective: You will have a better understanding of the motives and choices for why some people use Force vs Power in relationships. This lesson will explain the difference between these two approaches to “getting what you want”; FORCE (to coerce, push, control), OR POWER (to attract, draw-in, entice).
People tend to fall into one of two groups when it comes to getting what they want. Group 1: Using FORCE to make things happen… or… Group 2: Using personal Power to attract things into existence. This video lesson will explore the difference between these two tactics and what may be the result of using FORCE or POWER. After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion activity.
Discussion Questions:
- Public- Which approach is used by “bullies” and what are they trying to get? What’s wrong with this approach?
- Private-In what situations would you benefit from using more personal POWER and less FORCE to get what you want?
31- The Boomerang Effect
Learning Objective: Through this lesson you will learn what it means to be of service to others and what that sacrifice can produce. The video will explain why “you can have anything you want, if you help enough other people get what they want.”
32- Better than a Zipper
Learning Objective: You will learn some effective and ineffective methods of having healthy conversations with others. The lesson will provide with strategies for how to turn confrontational situations into healthy dialogue.
33- Villains and Victims
Lesson Objectives: Through this lesson, you will learn how to avoid turning people into villains, and thinking like a victim. Too often when we are faced with confrontation we end up labeling others as the villain and ourselves as the victim.
34- Mission: Sacrifice
Learning Objectives: In this video you will learn about personal sacrifice and what it means to put others first. It will explain, through a baseball analogy, why it is that we sacrifice to the benefit of others and how it is the highest level of serving.
35- Other People’s Mistakes
Learning Objective: People make mistakes, say the wrong thing, or sometimes just forget what’s important. We have a choice about how we respond to them when this happens. Through this video lesson you will learn how best to respond when others make mistakes.
36- The Final Secret 2 Thrive
Lesson Objective: In this lesson you will review the four quadrants of ALIVE2THRIVE and know where to find answers to future questions. You will learn about why it is important to re-read your answers from previous lessons and seek out the books that this curriculum is based upon.
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