Daily Action Steps For Conquering Adversity
Choosing Love Today:
HOW TO STAY ENGAGED WITH DIVERSITY
Have you noticed that your drive for change is waning? This is not surprising as working towards big goals can often feel overwhelming and tiring but check out these tips to help!
THE MEANING OF FORGIVENESS - A PHOTO SCAVENGER HUNT
Have you considered how forgiveness might benefit your life? Discover what forgiveness means to you through exploring your community with this activity.
MAKE A CARE PACKAGE
Want to show someone you care? How do you feel when someone surprises you with an act of genuine thoughtfulness? Put that energy into making a care package for someone who may appreciate some extra love right now.
REMEMBER TO MANAGE YOUR STRESS
Are you feeling particularly stressed out right now? That’s perfectly normal given what’s happening in the world today, but stress management should be at the top of your to do list!
REFLECT ON ALL ASPECTS OF A SITUATION
Are you having a hard time understanding what’s going on around you? Take a moment to reflect on the different elements of the situation. This can help you to not only better comprehend the situation, but also reveal actions steps that you can take!
IDENTIFY YOUR EMOTIONS
How are you REALLY feeling? With everything happening in the world right now, many of us are overwhelmed by our emotions. Take the time to identify all the emotions you are experiencing and reflect on the reasons why.
HOW TO BUILD COPING SKILLS
Is it difficult to let go of emotions after an upsetting or stressful situation? Building coping skills will prepare you to calm yourself down and minimize these feelings.
LEARN FROM PAST MISTAKES & FORGIVE YOURSELF
Have you engaged in actions or words in your past that you now regret? It’s time to forgive yourself for your past ignorance so you can move forward with your new knowledge.
AN OPPORTUNITY FOR SELF-REFLECTION
Take time to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and actions during this time of social unrest. Ask the tough questions. Where do you stand on the world’s current issues? How do recent events affect you? Do your current & past actions align with your beliefs?
COMPLIMENT SOMEONE YOU LOVE
“Everyone likes a compliment.” – Abraham Lincoln As Honest Abe so eloquently stated, compliments are universally liked. Even better, they are an easy way to brighten someone’s day.
REMEMBER THE PURPOSE OF FORGIVENESS
Remember the purpose of forgiveness is not to try and change the other person’s behaviors. Sometimes you hope that forgiving someone will change them for the better, that they will treat you better, but that is not what forgiveness does.
ANONYMOUS ACT OF KINDNESS
Amelia Earheart, an inspiration who was the first woman to fly a plane over the Atlantic Ocean, once said, “A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” What do you think she meant by this?
“One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.”
STEP OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!
Dr. Seuss is encouraging us to try things that are new to us. When we step outside of our comfort zones we may discover new favorite things, foods, places, the options are endless.
CREATE A KINDNESS BOARD
Famous writer, Mark Twain, once said, “Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” Everyone can express kindness, as well as appreciate receiving kindness from others.
TRIO OF THANKFULNESS
Ralph Waldo Emerson – “Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”
MAKE A “CUP OF COURAGE”
Nick Bland’s book The Very Brave Bear shows how being courageous and encouraging to others helps everyone feel good. In saying this, the book highlights that trying new things and not only being encouraging to others but encouraging yourself can make you feel brave and proud.
REFLECT ON TIMES YOU HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN
We are all human, and so we all make mistakes sometimes. As Bruce Lee said, it is up to us to admit to these mistakes and ask for forgiveness. If we have wronged or hurt someone, it will be that person’s decision to forgive us.
LEARN A NEW DANCE
Nelson Mandela once said, “ I learned courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but who conquers that fear.”
START A SELF-COMPASSION JOURNAL
Rachel Joy Scott, writer and advocate for compassion, once wrote, “Compassion is the greatest form of love humans have to offer.” Compassion is not only a way to show others love, but also yourself.
FORGIVE AGAIN AND AGAIN
When you forgive someone for hurting you, it doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten the incident. Forgiving someone does not require you to forget the past. We each grow from our experiences and we never want to forget the things we’ve learned.
MAKE A GRATITUDE HEART TO CARRY AROUND WITH YOU
K. Hallinan’s book I’m Thankful Each Day talks about a lot of things on Earth to be grateful for. Sometimes we can forget to find gratitude throughout our days when we’re busy, stressed, and tired.
MAKE A COURAGE CHAIN
As Walt Disney once said, “All our dreams can come true…if we have the courage to pursue them.” How do we build the courage to accomplish all of our goals? We can do this by starting with something small.
DON’T GO TO SLEEP ANGRY
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson, an American poet and philosopher. It can be easy to keep your anger to yourself and bottle it up inside.
THINK OF 5 THINGS YOU TAKE FOR GRANTED BUT ACTUALLY VALUE
Ziad Abdelnour once said, “Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had.” Nothing lasts forever, so it is important for us to appreciate the things we have while we have them.
TRY SOMETHING NEW
Mr. Thomas was feeling blue. He was staying home in his nest atop the highest tree in the garden and practicing social distancing as he should but being cooped up was hard for the hummingbird who was used to exploring the garden daily.
WRITE YOURSELF A KIND LETTER
Jack Kornfield, a best-selling American author once said, “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” While practicing compassion towards others is important to spreading positivity and love, it is also important to spend some time showing love towards ourselves.
REWIND AND RE-DO
Maya Angelou once said, “You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.’”
SHOW 3 THINGS THAT BRING YOU JOY
When Toni Morrison was a teacher, she told her students, “When you get these jobs that you have been so brilliantly trained for, just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else.”
BE A SUPERHERO
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness. That most frightens us. We ask ourselves Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
HIDE NOTES OF POSITIVE AFFIRMATION
What are positive affirmations? Positive affirmations are sayings that state what a person wants to become or what a person wants their situation to become.
Ernest Hemingway, an American writer, once said, “When people talk, listen completely.” Sometimes looking at a situation from someone else’s perspective can be difficult when you feel frustrated. Maybe you don’t really understand what the other person is going through.
Michelle Obama once said, “We learned about gratitude and humility – that so many people had a hand in our success, from the teachers who inspired us to the janitors who kept our school clean… and we were taught to value everyone’s contribution and treat everyone with respect.”
TELL SOMEONE YOU LOVE THEM
Mark Twain once said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” In saying this, he meant that it is okay to be afraid sometimes, but we can choose to take charge of our fears by being courageous.
GIVE A (VIRTUAL) HUG
Mr. Thomas was a hummingbird who often flitted about, spreading happiness and smiles to his other friends, Ms. Alicia the rabbit, Mr. Jeff the cat and Mr. Matthew the mouse. But something was wrong. His friends noticed it right away.
CREATE A RELAXING PLACE
Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive.” Developing the ability to forgive can be difficult, especially when you get frustrated or angry and don’t know how to calm down.
As Mufasa, from The Lion King, once said, “Remember who you are.” At times many of us are so wrapped up in our mistakes and flaws that we forget to appreciate ourselves. We should never forget how truly amazing we are.
WRITE SOMEONE A LETTER OF ENCOURAGEMENT
Maya Angelou once wrote, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” This sentiment expresses just how important our words and actions are.
WRITE A FORGIVENESS LETTER TO SOMEONE WHO HURT YOU
As Tyler Perry once said, “It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you.”
CREATE A THANK YOU SIGN
Mr. Rogers, an American icon who is known for his ability to bring positivity to others, once said “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’ ”
MAKE A COURAGE WALL
Although Cyndi Lauper sang about how “it’s hard to take courage in a world full of people”, she also encourages us that our true colors are beautiful. We shouldn’t be afraid to show our true selves and all the great things we do.
REACH OUT TO A FRIEND
When we are compassionate, we are deliberately showing how much we care about an individual. Our level of compassion communicates their importance to us, whether they are a friend, family member, or stranger. Giving a friendly smile can be just the thing a person needs to brighten up their day.
WRITE A JOURNAL ENTRY THAT FOCUSES ON THE POSITIVES OF A NEGATIVE SITUATION
Maya Angelou once wrote, “Forgive yourself- no one else will.” It can be so easy to become upset with ourselves for all things we aren’t doing, haven’t done, or could be doing. Although there are many things that may be out of our control, forgiveness is not one of them. We have the power each and every day to forgive ourselves and others. Forgiveness requires accepting a discomfort or something negative towards ourselves or other people.
WRITE A THANK YOU NOTE
Albert Schweitzer, a theologian, philosopher, and physician who received the Nobel Peace Prize in 1952, once said “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”
REACH OUT TO SOMEONE
Maya Angelou, beloved American poet and educator, once wrote, “If one has courage, nothing can dim the light which shines from within.” Maya Angelou encouraged us to know that we are stronger than we think, but do you know that strength can also be seen in asking for help?
Compassion is defined as the feeling of deep sympathy and acknowledgment of other people’s pain. We practice compassion by understanding that we all experience hardships. To practice compassion, it is important to ask ourselves how someone might feel in a situation. We then consider how we might feel in that same situation.
Mark Twain, author of the American classics The Adventures of Tom Sawyer and The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, once said: “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured." Holding onto anger hurts us more than the person or thing we are angry at.
MAKE A GRATITUDE JAR
Maya Angelou once wrote, “The ship of my life may or may not be sailing on calm and amiable seas. The challenging days of my existence may or may not be bright and promising. Stormy or sunny days, glorious or lonely nights, I maintain an attitude of gratitude. If I insist on being pessimistic, there is always tomorrow. Today I am blessed.”
STRIKE A COURAGE POSE
John Wooden, former UCLA Basketball Coach once said, “The true test of a man’s character is what he does when no one is watching.” There is a lot of truth to this quote, but how many of us, if honest, actually live it?
Have come across challenges lately that left you feeling like giving up on something you want to accomplish? When we push ourselves to keep trying, or persevere, we move towards success.
PRACTICE RELATIONSHIP BUILDING
Are you finding it hard to build relationships with others due to past/present conflict? There are ways to deal with conflict while maintaining or building relationships!
BUILD RECIPROCAL RELATIONSHIP WITH SCHOOL/JOB
Do you feel like you could have more support at your school/job? Do you also not know how to pay it forward? Learn how to support your school/job and ask for support in return.
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