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Relating to Others

RELATING TO OTHERS, the final module of video lessons, at its core seeks to make you ready to build stronger friendships, as well as meet the needs of others.

Some of the things you will learn in this module include;

  • How to respond when others make mistakes
  • How to work with and convince others to get what you want instead of forcing them to get what you want
  • Some of the common causes as to why we lose friends and how you might overcome pride and fear to reconnect with them
  • What it means to be of service to others and what that sacrifice can produce
  • And finally, a review of the four modules of the Alive2Thrive curriculum.

We invite you to preview the RELATING TO OTHERS module with unrestricted access to video #29, “Force vs. Power,” shown below. For FREE unrestricted access to all of our videos, please register with our site..

29- Using Force vs. Power

Learning Objective: You will have a better understanding of the motives and choices for why some people use Force vs Power in relationships. This lesson will explain the difference between these two approaches to “getting what you want”; FORCE (to coerce, push, control), OR POWER (to attract, draw-in, entice).

People tend to fall into one of two groups when it comes to getting what they want. Group 1: Using FORCE to make things happen… or… Group 2: Using personal Power to attract things into existence. This video lesson will explore the difference between these two tactics and what may be the result of using FORCE or POWER. After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion activity.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- Which approach is used by “bullies” and what are they trying to get? What’s wrong with this approach?
  • Private-In what situations would you benefit from using more personal POWER and less FORCE to get what you want?

30- How To Lose Friends and Alienate People

Learning Objective: Through this lesson you will learn about how fear and pride can influence your behavior and have consequences on your relationships. The lesson will explore some of the common causes for why we lose friends and how you might overcome pride and fear to reconnect.

No one WANTS to be a turn off to their friends, but it can happen to all any of us. Have you ever wondered what causes people to drift off or actually run the other way? It’s usually when we act out of fear, or out of pride. This video will explain what we mean. After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion activity.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- FEAR or PRIDE… Which one do you think is the bigger turn-off for people and why?
  • Private- FEAR or PRIDE… Which one of these two emotions traps you most often and what’s your plan to be more REAL?

31- The Boomerang Effect

Learning Objective: Through this lesson you will learn what it means to be of service to others and what that sacrifice can produce. The video will explain why “you can have anything you want, if you help enough other people get what they want.”

A wise man once said: “You can have anything you want if you help enough other people get what they want.” This lesson explores what it means to serve others. What drives a person’s attitude and behavior toward self-sacrifice.

After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion activity.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- What examples have you seen at our school of people serving others or caring for the needs of others?
  • Private- In what situations of your life could you do a better job of serving others? For whom? When? Where?

32- Better than a Zipper

Learning Objective: You will learn some effective and ineffective methods of having healthy conversations with others. The lesson will provide with strategies for how to turn confrontational situations into healthy dialogue.

Conversation skills or the lack of skill, is the single biggest factor that determines how we get along with others. This lesson will challenge you to take a look at what’s going on in your conversations.

After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion questions.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- What are the signs of disrespect creeping into a conversation, and why does it usually ruin the dialogue?
  • Private- In what situations could you do a better job of adding to the pool of information without trying to control the outcome? With whom?

33- Villains and Victims

Learning Objective: Through this lesson, you will learn how to avoid turning people into villains, and thinking like a victim. Too often when we are faced with confrontation we end up labeling others as the villain and ourselves as the victim.

This lesson will work with you to better understand why it is that we label other and how it feels to be labeled ourselves. What emotions are driving these impulses to make villains out of others and victims of ourselves

After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion questions.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- What causes you to turn someone into a “villain” in your mind? When do you think of yourself as a “victim?”
  • Private- In what situation could you have a better conversation with a particular person in your life? What are you going to do about it?

34- Mission: Sacrifice

Learning Objective: In this video you will learn about personal sacrifice and what it means to put others first. It will explain, through a baseball analogy, why it is that we sacrifice to the benefit of others and how it is the highest level of serving.

You will explore where you are willing to make a sacrifice to meet the needs of others.

To sacrifice something of value for another person’s good is the highest level of serving. It requires taking our eyes off our self and being more concerned about someone else. Who are you willing to put ahead of yourself. This lesson will help you explore these questions for yourself.

After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion questions.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- What personal qualities do you see in people who make sacrifices for others? What do you admire most?
  • Private- Who has made significant personal sacrifices for you during your life? When? How do you feel about it?

35- Other People’s Mistakes

Learning Objective: People make mistakes, say the wrong thing, or sometimes just forget what’s important. We have a choice about how we respond to them when this happens. Through this video lesson you will learn how best to respond when others make mistakes.

In this video lesson, you will learn how to talk to a friend or classmate when they make a mistake without causing more problems. Here you will explore how to properly criticize someone’s efforts or mistakes without alienating them. How to properly “educate” someone without sounding like a “know-it-all.

After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion questions.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- Why do experts say that the 3 C’s are the fastest way to destroy relationships?
  • Private- Describe situations in which you have used the 3 E’s in your friendships or family and what impact it has had.

36- The Final Secret 2 Thrive

Learning Objective: In this lesson you will review the four quadrants of ALIVE2THRIVE and know where to find answers to future questions. You will learn about why it is important to re-read your answers from previous lessons and seek out the books that this curriculum is based upon.

Congratulations! You’ve completed the Alive2Thrive lessons. We began this course by calling it a journey. That means that while you’ve completed the videos, the journey will still go on. In this lesson, you will review over your journey with Alive2Thrive and get pointers about how to continue learning on your own.

After watching the video, download the lesson worksheet and complete the discussion activity.

Discussion Questions:

  • Public- What is the most important or meaningful book you have read, not including text books for school? What did you learn?
  • Private- What situation, issue, or challenge in your life might be helped by finding the right book? Do you know where to look?